ServerI remember the days I was a parent of a kid who had a birthday party in the summer time. I was the only kid in town, and my friends and I had a great time. I thought it was a great summer party! The party was over, though, and the birthday boy was out of town to spend the night, so we were in the middle of the night, having a great time.
Then, in my mind, I was telling myself that if I had just been around in the middle of the night, I would have been able to stay awake and have a great time without the birthday boy coming back. But, that wasn’t how it was, and I know this is a bit of a generalization, but I can assure you that when a kid is in the middle of a party and someone is coming to take him home, you can imagine how that sucks.
I’ll stick with the old cliché, “you know, when you’re out of the house, you wake up in the morning and you want to be there with your little boy.
The other day I was talking to a guy who shared a birthday with my son and he said it didn’t matter what you do, if youre not happy, the party will be over and you’ll have to go back to bed. I couldn’t agree more.
I’m not sure if this is a common practice in the United States (it was the thing I did not expect to hear), but it seems that most parents have a version of this belief. I can only imagine the horror of waking up in the morning, wondering why you’re not there anymore, and being unable to wait for them to come home so you can finish your work and get back to your son. After all, it doesnt matter if you dont want to be there.
This is a common thought that parents will often share with me (especially when I’m trying to get my son back to sleep). I think it is because we all know the feeling of not wanting to be there anymore. We feel like there is something missing in our lives. We want to be somewhere or someone else. We feel like we cant trust ourselves or the people around us. I think this is why we all think the way we do.
This is because we all want to be on the same page, and if our stories are all told in the same way, then it could be that we need to be more aware of what we’re saying.
This feeling of needing to be on the same page with someone is called ‘vulnerability.’ But vulnerability isn’t the same as feeling empty and unloved. It’s about being able to trust that person with your own feelings and emotions. It might be that the person you’re trying to trust can’t be trusted because they are telling a story that is just not true.
Some people try to tell themselves its normal and healthy to have a secret and keep it to yourself. I think that’s bullshit but i feel like it’s important to know that when you’re in a dark place like a dark room you have to tell yourself “I can’t be there when you see me”.
Sophia Jennifer
